Six harsh truths about game I learned in my twenties.
You probably won't get told these anywhere else.
I am sure you have read a number of posts from people about life truths from your twenties and such but here are mines. Recently, I came down with COVID and my allergies have been wrecking me so bad that I cannot go out as I would like. My twenties taught me so much hard realities about life that I hit my thirties as a new person. Here are my hard truths for any of you in your twenties.
Truth 1 - Women hate “Nice Guys” for a good reason and you should learn to hate them too, they are rarely good people.
“Nice Guys” turn out to be some of the most terrible people you will ever meet in your life. A douchebag will cuss you out to your face and be rude to you up front but a “Nice Guy” is usually a wolf in sheep’s clothing. A “Nice Guy” will pretend to be your friend but then backstab you on a moment’s notice.
I learned this lesson the hard way with Paul in Budapest and regret not dropping the guy sooner.
Perhaps the first place you will learn about the scumbag nature of Nice Guys is when you work in the corporate world. You will notice that there are managers that act sweet in front of others but once you have team meetings, they are gossiping about everyone or treating people like trash. You may even notice it with a coworker who was sweet at first but as soon as they get promoted, they quickly show their true nature.
A woman’s intuition spots this fakeness fast and the smarter and more attractive women run. “Nice Guys” are some of the scummiest people you will ever meet and the vast majority of them deserve all the bad luck and bad karma coming their way. There is a distinction though, “Nice Guys” are not Good Guys. Good Guys do good things because it is in their nature to do good things. “Nice Guys” do good things with ulterior motives in mind.
Truth 2 - Despite what Game Coaches and Pickup Artists tell you, you need to get your sh*t together ASAP.
Game Coaches have long made a living off of selling guys a fantasy such as how they can be homeless or live with their parents yet still date or close models like it is nothing. I am here to tell you that Game Coach is a scammer. The same Game Coaches who quit their jobs to sarge and then max out credit cards to pay for their lifestyle are not role models you should look up to. A lot of them are often scammers who have burned many bridges.
There is this idea in the Game and pickup community that being broke actually helps you get laid because women see you as being less of a “provider”. Well here is the truth, being broke sucks. Being broke means you cannot afford good health, the ability to get in a good shape as easily (because eating healthy is expensive), or even life in the major cities that a lot of these attractive women move to.
The broke guys you know who are getting laid are doing so in spite of them being broke, not because of being broke. Game aside, not having your sh*t together when you hit 30 is pathetic. I have seen guys who spent their twenties only chasing tail because of what a Game Coach told them and now they are in tears as they have to compete for entry jobs with kids fresh out of college.
Do not let scammy dating coaches tell you that being broke is higher value and makes you sexier for a one night stand to women. This is all a scam they use to push their courses. In fact, tell them you took their advice and you are “broke” now so you can’t afford their courses, can they at least give you those courses for free? See how that goes for you.
On the other hand, do not use money as the sole way to get laid either.
Truth 3 - Being in the Pickup and Game community becomes detrimental after a while, there are diminishing returns.
Learn game and learn some of the basics but do not bother too much with the massive forums or big game chats. After a while, there are serious diminishing returns to debating game with guys who rarely go out but just talk theory all day. I’d say that the guys I know who got results put in the work after learning about game and rarely posted that much other than field reports and receipts.
After having winged with over 50 guys from Game Chats and Forums, I can confidently say that less than 10% know how to do actual game. Most of them are nervous when talking to women, make for terrible wings, and sound like weirdos. The vast majority of guys on these Game Chats and Forums are not even going out to approach and talk to women.
For example, Paul in Budapest straight out asked me “What’s the point of cold approaching and getting numbers when most of them go nowhere?”. This is like asking what is the point of eating well and weight training if you are not going to look good by the end of the week? As you will read on the link when Paul was first mentioned, he was a grossly overweight man that smoked all day and creeped on youth hostels despite pushing 30 so make of that what you will.
Characters like Paul are unfortunately very common in Game Communities. I’d say 70% of guys in any Game Chat or Forum that is massive are not actively talking to women or doing any major lifestyle change to get better with women. Most are just debating all day and theorizing.
Truth 4 - The longer you wait to fix your Game and live the player life, the harder it gets.
Let’s look at my situation. A decade ago, I would have been in my early twenties. Tinder was just taking off and it was actually a legitimate app where people got on and scored easily. Back then, just having pro photos put you far ahead of everyone else and you could even break triple digits in a year if you were committed. It is part of why I believe guys who got a high lay count before 2020 were dealing with an artificially inflated lay count.
I am actually going to do an article on this by using an analogy now that I think about it!
My point being, you never know what the world will look like a decade from now. For all we know, at this rate, we should be grateful for what we do have because there are some crazy things going on in this world. The longer you wait to get it out of your system or sow your wild oats, the harder it gets.
These days on Tinder, even professional photos won’t get you head. Restarting the app for the sake of a boost is worthy of a ban. Resetting your account on an app like Hinge is damn near impossible. My point being, things are way more complicated now which is why we are facing an epidemic of single men. You never know how bad it might get years down the road so act now!
Truth 5 - It is ultimately a lonely road, do not rely on wings no matter how good they may seem.
My biggest game mistake was relying on a handful of wings and I got burned. In some cases, like nightgame, having a wing helps immensely. However, you start to realize that a Wingman is a temporary boost at best and a liability in most cases.
The best wings tend to find a girl and get out of the game fast, I have seen it time and time again. The ones who do not typically have something off about them, barring the very few who just dislike monogamy. I learned this when I winged with Andy, we may have had months of going out but little got done because Andy was not ready for nightgame and had character flaws such as playing passive aggressive mindgames.
You might ask then how to do nightgame solo? I will write a post on this but what has worked is socializing with people in general early on and finding guys then and there who want to wing.
Make it easier on yourself and avoid having any wingman or at least avoid the idea of ever having to rely on one. Guys in the game community, in most cases, are quite unreliable and fickle.
Truth 6 - You won’t get the kinds of girls you want if you hang with the kinds of guys they find unattractive.
You want that hot blonde at the nightclub who has cool friends and is being chased by some high status men. Your friend are a bunch of pickup losers who do not know how to dress or give value. Well, you are not getting her.
I learned this lesson the hard way as well. I winged with guys who lived with their moms despite being over 30 and worked jobs such as food delivery and driving for Uber. When having wings, I was winging with them and chasing the hottest girls at the venue.
Here is the thing, that hot blonde or hot high status girl in general is not going to go for you if you have low status friends. This is part of why so many dudes in the Game community can nab some FOB chick with low standards but struggle with the hot girls who have options. You have to upgrade your circle of friends with guys who are heading the right direction in life.
Only exception to this rule is if your friends are club promoters or work in nightlife. In this instance, they get a pass. But if your friends are doing food deliver or driving for Uber as their main source of income, it’s time to get new friends if you want the hottest girls.