I mean, the bigger the age gap the harder it is, yes, you need more status/charm/etc. and time and chance happeneth to us all.
If you date women your own age, the odds actually keep improving due to shorter male life expectancy--guys in nursing homes clean up because all the competition's pushing up daisies.
There is a physical male wall, in the conventional sense, in the mid 20s.
It was shocking how guys who looked good in high school or early college started to become spitting images of their fathers, in the worse way.
Resemblance is inevitable but it’s so weird when the seemingly improbable happens, you’re at the county fair one year, and two of the same shape organism waddle out of the same truck.
Totally. I find that men handsome in their 20s rarely hold onto that. The ones who are almost feminine-pretty end up looking worse. However, the ones that were a little bit mid and goofy-looking age into their features well if they stay healthy.
I lean into a more masculine look now but it doesn’t hold a candle to the prettyboy days. Too old to go back to that aesthetic now, it just wouldn’t look right.
There’s a need for “wall” distinction between people who deteriorate after their youth fades and people who evolve into mature attractiveness that’s mostly appealing to other older people, or that younger people might not be sexually attracted to but might consider good for their future self or future partner, or reads as credibility or nobility. Other cultures still have this but the pomo west no longer does.
Great post, but tough to swallow. I peaked in my 20s due to my Dad's high status in a certain religious group. I turned down a handful of nice women over the years. They weren't "hot" enough, and I didn't have the balls to ask out the ones I thought were hot and had chemistry with.
I am now 39 and have hit the wall. I broke up with my girlfriend of three years, five months ago. Why? She was a 6.5, and we had opposite personalities. I was book smart. She was street smart. I wanted someone hotter and smarter, and didn't have the balls to break up with her fully (we broke up and got back together multiple times).
The emotional pain from my breaking up with her grows and gnaws at me every day. She already has a new bf, which I'm glad for because she deserves it, but it hurts (obviously). I think my last shot is finding a woman around 30-35 from my old religious circle, growing a pair, and trying to turn into a wolf. The grays on my temples scare off all the under-30 girls at this point.
I mean, the bigger the age gap the harder it is, yes, you need more status/charm/etc. and time and chance happeneth to us all.
If you date women your own age, the odds actually keep improving due to shorter male life expectancy--guys in nursing homes clean up because all the competition's pushing up daisies.
I would disagree if you are trying to get one night stands, women in their 30s are quite prudish
That was not my recollection, but I wonder how much this sort of thing varies by personal experience. ;)
There is a physical male wall, in the conventional sense, in the mid 20s.
It was shocking how guys who looked good in high school or early college started to become spitting images of their fathers, in the worse way.
Resemblance is inevitable but it’s so weird when the seemingly improbable happens, you’re at the county fair one year, and two of the same shape organism waddle out of the same truck.
Common story in small towns and such but a lot of men can start to peak in the looks department in their 30s.
Totally. I find that men handsome in their 20s rarely hold onto that. The ones who are almost feminine-pretty end up looking worse. However, the ones that were a little bit mid and goofy-looking age into their features well if they stay healthy.
I peaked lookswise in my early-mid 20’s.
I lean into a more masculine look now but it doesn’t hold a candle to the prettyboy days. Too old to go back to that aesthetic now, it just wouldn’t look right.
There’s a need for “wall” distinction between people who deteriorate after their youth fades and people who evolve into mature attractiveness that’s mostly appealing to other older people, or that younger people might not be sexually attracted to but might consider good for their future self or future partner, or reads as credibility or nobility. Other cultures still have this but the pomo west no longer does.
There is another wall that all men will hit sooner or later: the feminist culture that marginalizes and dehumanizes men.
Great post, but tough to swallow. I peaked in my 20s due to my Dad's high status in a certain religious group. I turned down a handful of nice women over the years. They weren't "hot" enough, and I didn't have the balls to ask out the ones I thought were hot and had chemistry with.
I am now 39 and have hit the wall. I broke up with my girlfriend of three years, five months ago. Why? She was a 6.5, and we had opposite personalities. I was book smart. She was street smart. I wanted someone hotter and smarter, and didn't have the balls to break up with her fully (we broke up and got back together multiple times).
The emotional pain from my breaking up with her grows and gnaws at me every day. She already has a new bf, which I'm glad for because she deserves it, but it hurts (obviously). I think my last shot is finding a woman around 30-35 from my old religious circle, growing a pair, and trying to turn into a wolf. The grays on my temples scare off all the under-30 girls at this point.
Well, this blog is for you, I am going to give men advice on how to turn it around in their 30s.
At least you don't have a bald spot that you are in denial about?