Why Men Beneath You Keep Winning With Women

It's not "Game", looks, or even status.

A lot of guys will tell you that you should “Looksmaxx” or work on your “Game” if you want to get women.

As someone who has been involved in both communities, I can say that vast majority of men in them, even top tier ones, aren’t getting a lot of women in their lives.

I speak from experience.

For years, I was a part of the Game community, be it RSD Nation or major groups like Game Global. I met and went out with a lot of guys, some who were even “coaches”. A lot of these guys weren’t even that bad looking, had well-paying jobs, and were great guys to talk to!

Some of these guys I did a hundred approaches with and they even got the occasional lay one in a blue moon. Compare this to some guys we have on Degen Diaries who get up to 9 lays in a month. Given that we are big on solid proof, the numbers are legit.

Game, Looks, and even “Status” are all a threshold thing.

Being good at them is really all about:

• Not being weird

• Having social skills

• Being able to lead her

• Not looking and dressing like crap

• Getting to a point where some people can actually like and respect you

Even “status” gets overhyped. Someone who is “high status” in one room is low status in another. A Tech guy who is respected at a networking event is a dud at a nightclub. None of these things will get you the dating life you desire.

In fact, you may have even noticed it. You may have actually met guys who were constantly getting good looking women and rarely were they the most handsome and with the best Game. My fellow Southerners know all about that.

We have all seen that guy in our city. He is not the best looking or even that special but somehow, he is always bringing good looking women around. You may even see it various cities where the best looking women are always around certain guys.

In the recent year, I have become that guy.

Sometimes, you even wonder what it is about that guy! What are you missing that he has?

That one thing that you are missing is ACCESS.

An example of someone with a lot of access would be some fraternity guy in a higher status fraternity at a party school. In most cases, he is likely:

• Not that much better looking than the typical guy

• Not that much more charismatic

• Not dressing that well (a lot can’t even dress!)

• Not the guy with the best Game

However, he has access. He is constantly around women that look good and he is a part of their world. He is relevant in their world and can provide relevant value.

Meanwhile, some guy who:

• Is genuinely attractive

• Well-dressed

• Has charisma through the roof

• Has top tier “Game”

Will do worse than the frat guy in question because he:

• Lives in a suburb where everyone is married

• Lives with his Mom

• Is not around a lot of hot girls

• Is not a part of the same world as beautiful women

• Is in a city with horrible ratios (San Francisco)

• Is in some Conservative country where casual sex is highly frowned upon

In other words, without access, a guy with inferior looks and inferior Game is constantly getting with better looking women far more frequently than you.

A mediocre guy with top tier access beats a top tier guy with mediocre to no access.

Access = An “In” you have to her world.

Say you have a good looking party girl who hooks up, who is likely to have an “In” to her world?

• An Investment Banker working 80 hrs a week

• A Club Promoter

The correct answer is the Club Promoter even if he is more broke, less attractive, and has worse “Game”. He has an “In” to her world compared to an Investment Banker who is far away from it.

More importantly, he is able to provide value relevant to her. A hot party girl is not looking to get a job coding, she is looking to:

• Get into the best parties

• Get VIP

• Cut the long lines at the club

A Club Promoter provides that and immerses her into the scene. A rich guy might be able to provide that but he had to pay for it and she will just use him for money.

If you have noticed it enough, a lot of attractive women aren’t always with attractive men. A lot of times, they are with guys who run in certain crowds and you just happen to wonder how he ended up with her.

Why cold approach on its own is not enough.

While a guy who regularly goes out to “sarge” and do “daygame sessions” is doing better than some guy working 90 hrs a week in a corporate job surrounded mostly by men, he runs into one problem.

He really has no genuine value to provide to her.

This is where the “Game” community falls short. Cold approach, on its own, works if she is already into you because you happen to be her type. However, you are banking on her:

• Seeing you as her type

• Being in the mood to talk to anyone that day

• Not being in a relationship

• Being open to meeting strangers

• Being available that week and not losing interest

Without access, your dating life will hit a hard ceiling.

If you do not fix your issues with access, your dating life will always be Mid. You will hit a hard ceiling. You won’t get a lot of beautiful women consistently entering your life. You will have dry spells that go on for too long.

If you do not have your solid “In”, you will always have an inconsistent dating life. Guys who are less attractive and have less “Game” than you will always outperform you.

For most men, this is actually the hardest piece to figure out. The reason is because while every guy can “learn Game”, learn better social skills, dress better, and improve his looks; there is only so much Access to go around.

If everyone became a Club Promoter for a top tier nightclub tomorrow, then that will lose its value as access.

You have to find your unique access as a man in order to take your dating life to the next level.

In order to fix your issue with access, you have to find your “In”.

Finding your “In”.

Some people call this finding your “niche”. This is where the real fun actually begins because it’s like putting the final piece of the puzzle together. Typically, here is how you do it:

• Find what attractive women in your city or area value

• Find how you fit into that

• Find how you can repeatedly provide value in that

For example, if you are in a Bible Belt City where women love Country Music a lot, you can think of ways to provide access being who you are.

If you are a rich and social guy, you can make friends with the movers and shakers in that scene. Once you realize that these guys are cool and chill, you can propose bringing beautiful women around. Then every beautiful woman you meet or are friends with, you can bring to these exclusive events or close to them.

I just offered you one example but notice how it is centered around creating value for everyone. I say, find your “In” so you can get in ;)