Why the age men peak doesn't matter that much.
And what actually does.
Every now and then on the dating discord, conversations will come up around when men hit their peak in life and especially with women.
Some claim it is in your 30s and recent findings say that it is in your mid-20s.
Some popular influencers are saying it is 38.
In reality, we are all over the place and it does vary man to man.
If I was to look at it objectively, I was at my physical peak in my mid-20s when I could run the fastest, was chiseled, and regularly told I was handsome by strangers.
At that time in my life, I was in a committed relationship which we will actually get to.
I have seen cases where:
Some men peak in terms of looks when they are in their early 20s
Some men peak in their early 20s and rapidly decline
Some men don’t start to look good until their 30s
Some men don’t start to look good until an older age as they finally pay attention to diet and fitness
You are actually wasting your time worrying about this as a man because even if there was a right answer, there is a catch.
It’s not really the right question to ask.
The right question to ask is not:
When will I peak as a man
It is:
When will I still have a high enough value and be in a place to do something with it
For example, a guy can look relatively okay (not hot) in his college days but if he has the right set-up, he is doing far better than good looking guys his age who:
Live at home and commute to school
Are not regularly around a lot of single women
Do not even go to college or an environment where they can be around a lot of women
Are in a sexually conservative country
Are in a committed relationship
In most cases, you are far better off being the guy who isn’t his best as long as you have the right set up as opposed to being a guy who is at his peak looks but does not get to use them.
It is not about your peak as a man, it is how you use it.
In fact, I don’t look nearly as handsome as I did in my mid-20s.
Here is how I am like now in my 30s:
I am chubbier as opposed to being chiseled with a low BF
I have thinning hair which isn’t noticeable yet but it’s getting there
I have slight greying in my beard and just noticed my first grey hair
My face is slightly chubbier due to years of drinking
Nowhere near where I used to be athletically
Being able to run a mile in 6 minutes
Real good at Football (Midfielder) and MMA (wrestling and BJJ)
However, at the same time, I am:
No longer stuck in sexually repressive areas like The Bible Belt
Where people marry early and judge you for hooking up
No longer in a committed relationship
No longer around judgmental friends who hate you for sleeping around
In a city with a lot of attractive and single women
Financially better off
In a place where social politics and cliquishness no longer stop you from getting the women you want
At a place where my Game is better and I have stronger social connections
While the Mid-20s me would have likely had more sexual options, the 30s me objectively has far more options and opportunities.
And that is the issue for most men.
Unless you are a Trust Fund Baby with laid back parents who will proudly pay for him to party, meet women, and sleep around; you’re likely going to waste the best physical years of your life in most cases.
I am sure with technology rapidly advancing we may get to a place where men over 35 and 40 can rival men in their mid-20s on purely physical appearance as well.
However, in a lot of cases, men just never get to cash in on their peak physical years because the opportunity is not there.
Most men are dealing with:
Not being born into a rich family
Not having laid back rich parents that let them sleep around with a bunch of random women
Being poor when they are young
Trauma and baggage from the tough life they were likely born into
Not having the social connections that lead to getting women when you are younger
A cliquish school/university environment that forbids just casually hooking up with strangers
Getting their finances right so they don’t have to be broke for life
Getting the careers and/or business figured out
As you can see, most men are not in a place where they can really cash in because of all of what they go through when young.
Which is the real reason the 30s are considered a man’s “peak”.
In majority of cases, compared to a guy in his 20s, a guy in his 30s is likely not as:
Handsome
Energetic
Athletic
Sharp
If we were to go purely based on all of these metrics, in most cases you can say men peak in their 20s and not their 30s. However, most men don’t get to cash in on peaking in their 20s.
Your 30s may not always be when you peak (for some men, not most, they certainly can be), but they are the time in your life when you have the best opportunity to cash in on whatever value you have left.
Looking better in your 20s means very little when life circumstances do not allow you to make the most of what you have.
By your 30s, if you were wise in your 20s, you have put in the work to create a life on where you can cash in on the good years you have left.
Which is why this site exists.
For a while, I wondered what was going to be the purpose of Post 30.
Well, here it is.
The 30s, for most men, are likely going to be the last decade of life when you can casually sleep around with great success without having to Sugar or pay a lot for it.
It is going to be the last window of opportunity in your life when you will be considered “young” by most of society before you hit 40.
Most importantly, it is going to be the decade of your life where you get to get the life that circumstances out of your control likely denied you in your 20s.
Travel the world.
Enjoy whatever youth you have left.
Date around, a lot.
Sleep around, as much as you can.
Have fun friends, while you can.
Start that business, while you can.
Move to that world class city and enjoy life there, while you can.
Have those fun top tier parties, while you can.
And I am going to be there to help you out because that is what Post 30 is about.
Oh no, then what happens after 40?